Dear Future Daughter-In-Law,
Dear Future Daughter-In-Law,
I hope tonight you are safely tucked into your bed. That your daddy read you a story… sang you a sweet song… told you “I love you” and kissed you gently good-night.
I hope in the morning your mama greets you with a warm embrace… kisses the top of your head and asks you… “Baby, did you sleep soundly? What were your dreams?”
I hope that you are cherished… delighted in… tenderly led… and loved.
I hope you know the Lord and the peace that comes from only His guard… His hands.
I hope you grow up into a strong, kind, confidant, young woman who knows her value and waits for the one willing to love you at that cost.
You are worthy of time,
You are worthy of delight,
You are worthy of tenderness,
You are worthy of mercy,
You are worthy of kindness,
You are worthy of sacrifice,
You are worthy of love!
But baby girl… if tonight you don’t feel safe… don’t feel loved… don’t feel delighted in,
If you daddy is not a “man”.
If you mama does not tenderly pursue you and teach you your worth.
If you don’t learn your value and sell yourself for a cheap replica of love,
You are still welcomed here!
Oh, how my heart breaks for you!
I want you here now… with me… in my arms… in my family…. in my home!!
I hope when you meet my son… fall in love with my son… give yourself to my son… that he treats you with the utmost respect.
That he opens your door,
Listens to your heart,
Opens up to you,
Brings you the security that you are the only woman made for him.
That he delights in you,
That he affirms,
Sacrifices all of himself for you, even the small, daily things, which you will come to find are the hardest of all things!
And that he leads you,
Loves you!
I hope when you meet me I don’t scare you… I talk a lot… and I love intensely… recklessly.
I hope we become friends.
I hope you become my daughter, not in-law, but my flesh… my blood!
I hope you’ll forgive me when I step out of line.
If I cross over into your rightful territory it’s not because I think you can’t handle it… that you’re not good enough.
It’s just that… you’ve married my son… my baby… my boy.
I was the first to hold him when he entered this world.
I nursed him… held him close and rocked him until he slept.
I was the one he asked for a snuggle… a bear hug… a kiss good-night.
I was the one who held him while he endured tummy aches… fevers… monsters and heart aches.
I was the one he came to for advice… for comfort… for love!
Now he goes to you… he is your man,
And this brings with it bittersweet joy.
I know this is right,
I know this is good,
Because I know it’s God’s plan… for you to take my place.
And I am thankful!
Please take care of him.
He will love you, this I am sure, and you will have a strong hold on him.
Don’t use his love for you against him!
Don’t harm him,
Don’t deceive him,
Don’t trick him,
Don’t belittle him.
Know him,
Delight in him,
Encourage him,
Hold him accountable,
Be honest with him,
Teach him,
Tell him your needs… your desires.
Be patient with him,
Sacrifice for him,
Love him!
But sweet, baby girl… most of all… I hope tonight you are safely tucked into your bed… dreaming lovely dreams.
I pray you know you’re loved… because I love you!
Oh Sarah,
This brought happy tears to my eyes. Your words speak with such beautiful clarity and honesty that I want every young man and woman in my life to read this. That said, I’ll start with each of my kiddos (Tanna-20 and Dane-14) and let them read it, too.
I’m so blessed to be married to a man who helps me in this journey every day. I’m also blessed to have a mother in-law who feels just as “flesh and blood” as my own.
I’m so glad you found me yesterday…you rock, Mama 🙂
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It’s such a crazy thought that the boys future wives are out there… somewhere. It make them “human” in my mind which helps me remember to pray for them and for whatever situation they find themselves.
Thank you for the kind words Mama!!
I’m glad I found you too!!!
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Ugg!! This tugged on my heartstrings. I could feel the love and tenderness in each line.
I’m a mother to two boys and I can’t tell you how much this spoke to me. I echo your prayers and won’t stop praying that God brings our babies the best spouse.
Sarah, I’m also glad to know that I’m not the only mother who thinks about these things. When you’re responsible for little lives, you have to start planning and praying for their futures now.
Have a blessed day my beautiful friend!
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I truly just hope my daughter-in-laws are safe… I hope they feel welcomed here!
My mother-in-law is amazing, supportive and loves my kids… I see so many mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationships that are down right nasty… I have to be honest… I fear that coming into my own life someday… and the life of my boys and future grand-babies!!
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LOVE THIS!!!!!
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Thank you!!
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I love this! As a mommy of 2 boys, it definitely struck a chord in my heart. Glad I found your blog!!!!
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Paige, Thank you for the kind words… those boys… they have our hearts!!!
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Yes they certainly do!
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Words spoken on behalf of every parent’s heart. My kids are all in their teens (14, 15, 15, 19) and I have found myself thinking of their future relationships/marriages (as in for each, not multiple marriages each!), and how that person can mean the difference between a life that takes wing or is grounded in a mire. I also think of the role my own children play in that equation, and how I hope they can become for someone else what my wife is for me.
I really loved this 😉
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Agreed Ned! I am often amazed and a bit freaked out at how much the person I married has shaped my life! My husband is my best friend… he is, well, just right for me! There are so many struggles I see women having in their personal life that I could easily have as well… but I don’t… not because of anything in and of myself but because of the man I’m married too.
This connection the Lord has blessed us with when it comes to our spouses it not only borderline, magical… it is scary… my children will marry someone who will, like you said, bring life or mire!
And as for my children’s role in their future marriages… I hope they will be a true, life long gift to their spouse!
On a “blogging” note… I am so glad you can by! MamaMick sings your praises and now I have the pleasure of having you around!!
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Unless you are in that kind of relationship, I think it’s hard for people to truly understand what it means to be connected with someone in that way. There is no one on this planet I’d rather spend time with than my wife. She makes every moment more than it could ever be without her. My parents were the same way — soul mates on every level. I can only hope that my children find the same kind of love in their own lives, and that seeing the kind of relationship their mom and I have will help them recognize it when it happens.
On a further “blogging note,” it’s really nice to be here 😉 And Michelle is pretty darned terrific.
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What a lovely letter. Anyone with kids can identify. Please make sure this is written on nice paper – or just printed out – and tucked away as a future gift. It will be chereished.
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Great idea!!
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Wow! I have no words because I’m in tears! Beautiful! (from the Moderate Mama’s Mama in-love)
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Thank you Moderate Mama-In-Law!
You and Moderate Big Guy raised a GREAT one!!!
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Like other mamas here, this brought tears to my eyes! We are raising our boys to be men, and somewhere, someone is raising daughters to be women. Whatever these girls’ situations, my heart and mind go out to them so often when I look at my boys. Thank you for writing this!
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Sounds like you have some blessed boys and one day, blessed daughter-in-laws!!
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What a beautiful love letter. I pray often for the ones my boys will someday love. Even thought I don’t yet know who they are, I love them already.
I, too, am a moderate mama. I’m happy to meet a kindred.
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It is hard to think about my little guy belonging to someone else, but I know deep down that I am just “act one” and his wife will take it from there. What a blessing that we have the relationship of a spouse as a life partner! I, too, hope my future DIL is being loved on and lead toward a Godly life, but if not, she will find it here.
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Lovely words Courtney… and yes… it will be so hard and thank God for our spouse’s shoulder to cry on!
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That is a beautiful letter. I will have to add a paragraph apologizing for the fact that her husband is a slob, though. Can’t quite get the rhythm right!
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Welp… we have to leave SOME work for her 😉
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Ok… now I’m a watering pot. What a lovely, lovely letter! And how well it describes what we hope for our boys’ futures. I have two little grandsons, 6 and 4… this is exactly what I wish concerning their future wives. My own son, thank God, has a lovely wife whom I consider my own daughter. And, for the record, our little girl was tucked in and read stories, and is still loved and cherished by her daddy (and me, and her own husband) to this day… she’s nearly 29. 🙂 Happy endings do exist. Mother Hen
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Oh… I’m so glad to hear your children found lovely mates… such a wonderful gift!!
Yeah for happy endings!!!
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Beautiful
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Thank you Lex!
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Felt a tugging at my heartstrings…touching.
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Thank you… I can’t wait to meet my future girls!!!
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Wonderful post. It takes a village. Thanks for following nutsrok.
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This is beautiful!
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Thank you.. I don’t write heart felt post often but I couldn’t stop thinking about my future girls… I had to get it out!!
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Wow! This is so SWEET!!! NEver ever imagined my mother in- law would ever pray for me……😊
Wow….,
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Your mother-in-law might surprise you!!!
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😊😳😊😊
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I’m thinking maybe you had good parents to instill these values and thoughts.
Nice piece here, well done
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You thought correct! Thanks for stopping by ColorStorm
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